Courses For School Children
Courses for girls
Taboo subjects are discussed in the class. They concern sexual abuse of girls and women, as well as the topic of rape.
The goal of the class is to make girls "conscious" through physical exercise; this consciousness allows them to correctly perceive and judge their environment and surrounding people so they can avoid sexual harassment and a potential attack.
Also, finding the strength to let go of any feelings of guilt that may arise after such a horrible experience is part of the discussion. Many women and girls that were raped feel guilty of what happened. Paradoxically, the victim assumes the feelings of guilt that should be the perpetrator's.
In class we talk about experiences and we analyse how one could have behaved in a certain situation, and how one should behave in general stressful situations to keep problems from escalating. We talk about the importance of opening up to a person you trust or to the police after being raped, breaking the silence and speaking about the experience.
Role-playing teaches girls to confidently say "No" and to become aware of their gestures and mimicry. Perpetrator profiles are constructed and places are cited where statistics show that frequent attacks take place.
Of course, a great part of the class is used for practicing effective self-defense techniques, giving the attendants the possibility to successfully free themselves from the attack and escape.
Courses for boys
Conceptually, the prevention class for boys is different from the one for girls mainly because of the so-called "hitting-on phase". While the first encounter between attacker and girl / woman mostly unfolds in a friendly manner (the attacker becomes pushy and puts his hand around the victim etc.), boys find themselves exposed to an ancient ritualistic behaviour pattern that follows thousand-year-old rules from the very beginning of the conflict.
1. The contact look
Every physical conflict is preceded by the contact look, through which the attacker selects his victim. If the victim notices early enough that he is being targeted, he still has a chance to avoid the confrontation.
2. The verbal contact phase
"What are you looking at? Are you challenging me?" With these and similar lines, the attacker confronts the victim to find out if he will encounter any resistance. Here, too, it is possible to escape the danger through certain gestures and mimicry.
3. The shoving phase
Like sharks who shove their victim prior to the actual attack to find out if an attack is worth the risk of being hurt, the aggressor pushes his opponent. If the victim performs no action of self-defense now, it is almost impossible to avoid a fight. Boys are taught to consciously and de-escalatingly avoid a physical confrontation.
4. The actual physical clash
If the aggressor feels superior enough and verbal humiliations no longer satisfy his ego, the actual fight follows ? striking the victim. In most cases, the latter is so discouraged and intimidated that no serious self-defense action can be spoken of.
This is why boys, just like girls in the prevention class, are taught effective self-defense that will work even in stressful, extreme situations.
However, emphasis is put on making students understand that these techniques must only be used when they are really needed.
The goal of the course is to give children a self-confidence that makes them strong enough to end conflicts without violence and to use their knowledge about the above-mentioned phases to their own defense.